The Full Parenting Guide to Start

Welcome to the Parenting Guide !!! I know you may have a lot of ongoing ideas and thoughts, How am going to raise my kids, how to deal with them, what should I say and do, etc…

What are the best ways to be a parent? Is there any principals or rules to apply it to do it right? ,

There are Some principles you can use to help direct your parenting journey with consistency, love, and healthy mental way.

I will try to make sweet and simple as much as I can to be easily understood and applied.

1. Values & Expectations

They are important in the household. When values inform expectations, everyone in the family can come to a place of understanding and acceptance.

Coming up with values as a family is a great way for everyone to take responsibility for living according to these values. Over time, you can gather your family together and reassess the

values you follow. As the family evolves, so can the values.

You can choose values by thinking about how you want your family to function.

What do you prioritize as a family?
How do you want your kids to behave?
What do you want them to value as they grow older?

Answering the above questions can help you narrow down your core values.

2. Importance of boundaries

Having a parent-child relationship is a strong source of guidance for a child. But take care of this.

As children grow older, they begin exploring their own identities. This can lead to a bit of distance between you and your child. This can be hurtful. You have worked so hard and you may sometimes feel unappreciated. Some parents try to connect with their kids by becoming lenient and acting more like a friend than a parent.

Though kids may respond well to this, it actually doesn’t benefit them in the long run. A lack of structure can lead your kids off track. As a parent, you’re responsible for your kid’s safety, health,

and future. This can seem like a daunting task, but it is possible after you have implemented your values and expectations for your family.

Acting according to your values means setting clear boundaries.

Your kids will test the limits as they try to gain more independence. Having your boundaries in mind as they grow in new directions can help you remain calm and consistent through a tumultuous time.

Check these strategies to implement boundaries

Begin by evaluating your core values
Have your boundaries ready.
Pay attention to your feelings and reactions.
Boundaries show that you demand respect.

3. Consequences to actions

Importance of teaching your children to take responsibility for their actions, Knowing that actions are followed by consequences will prepare your child for the real world.

You’re the first source of knowledge for your kids. It is your job to prepare them for success in the real world. Part of this process means teaching your kids that there are consequences for all of your actions.

Holding your kids accountable for their actions will teach them to own up to their mistakes in the future. It’s helpful to talk through the reasoning behind these consequences so your child

understands why she is expected to meet expectations, and what happens when expectations are not met.

This prepares kids for the real world, where consequences can be much worse than getting a bad grade in class for not studying.

4. Allow our children to struggle

Life is in a constant flow of success and failure, of happiness and disappointment. This is the nature of life. It is uncomfortable and difficult, but going through difficulty builds resilience. If you find that your child has made a mistake, you may want to comfort them and solve the problem for them.

But let your child hold the tension.

This will continue to help them take responsibility for their actions. When they’re able to feel the feelings that go along with making the mistake, they’ll be able to evaluate their values and learn what it feels like when they are or are not acting in accordance with those values.

When you come in to save the day when something goes wrong, your child will begin to think that he can’t solve problems without you. This could lead to feelings of helplessness and doubt in the future.

When you let your child have ownership of the mistake, you teach them that you know they can handle it.

But you may ask yourself Buy Now When Should I step in?

Let your child fail safely don’t make it hard on your kid, When your child is about to make a mistake that you know will cause harm, it’s valuable to step in sooner rather than later. Kids don’t have fully-developed frontal lobes in their brains. This means they’re not fully able to think through

the consequences of their actions. Sometimes you need to point this out to them and have a conversation.

You can give help anytime when your kid asks for help.

5. have faith in your child’s ability

He will feel secure in taking risks. Knowing that you are always on his team will help your child stay motivated when challenges present themselves.

It can be disappointing and frustrating when kids don’t meet the expectations you’ve set out for them based on your values. When the same mistake is repeated over and over again, you may begin to lose hope. It’s natural to begin thinking of your child in a less positive light.

For example, if your child continuously does poorly in school, you may begin to think of him as a poor student. It may be true that your child struggles frequently.

However, when you begin to think of him as a bad student, he will see himself that way, too.

Treating him like he’s going to fail or have another bad semester will often be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Treating your child as though he has already failed is not likely to lead to success.

For your best results, use these strategies to show support:

Remember that if you begin to doubt your child, he will begin to doubt himself.

Set high expectations and pay attention to the outcome.
Lead by example. When you show your child that you believe in yourself, he will learn what it looks like to persevere through difficulty

6. Grateful people are joyful people.

By expressing gratitude for each other, your family unit will grow stronger and happier.

Practice gratitude each day – both alone and with your family. Practice gratitude every day. Just 15 minutes of gratitude each day has many benefits that grow from your heart to the heart of your family, and on to your community.

Our society tends towards the negative. Things are frequently inconvenient or disappointing. That is not the lens through which you want to see your world, however. Instead, make a conscious effort to increase your gratitude skills.

Extensive research has shown many benefits of gratitude. Gratitude increases feelings of connectedness and peace. Not only will the bond of your family grow stronger, but each member of the family will benefit as well.

Consider these benefits of gratitude: 

Gratitude helps develop empathy. When we’re grateful, we’re more aware of others and less concerned with ourselves. We have a broader understanding of the world around us. As a result, we’re better able to be patient and understanding with others. 
Gratitude enhances feelings of joy. Even when the storms of life present themselves, grateful people are able to remain hopeful. Gratitude cultivates a core feeling of joy that is not evaporated in times of stress. 
We sleep better when we’re grateful. By ending your day with gratitude, you’re less likely to ruminate on the negative aspects of your day. If you’re able to see the goodness and express gratitude, you’ll feel stronger feelings of peacefulness.  
Gratitude increases self-compassion and decreases negative self-talk. When we’re able to step back and look at the positive, our thoughts are likely to mimic that positivity. This will lead to more positive self-talk and forgiveness of future errors.
Gratitude builds resilience. By actively acknowledging the specific things that you’re grateful for, you’re a making positive effort to look on the bright side. Life is less likely to keep you down when you’re able to see the light through the fog.

7. Get active with your family.

Try new things instead of sticking to the same-old routine. Creating new memories and encouraging new hobbies are two wonderful ways to bond with your child.

Building a happy home and healthy children requires an intentional effort from every member of the family. It’s easy to turn on Netflix and have a day where you don’t have to pay attention to anything. Some days, that really is exactly what you need.

Pay attention to how your family spends time together. If you notice that you’re mostly inside or not doing many activities as a family, make a point to dedicate time with family.

What Should I do Next?

Invest in memories that bring your family closer together. You can get outside and participate in activities with your family.

Quality time is a great way to display love for your children.

What Activities can be done together?

Try these fun family activities: 

Choose your family’s favorite non-profit and spend a day volunteering together. Being of service increases empathy and gives a broader perspective of the world. Volunteering helps the family grow together. It also teaches your children the importance of compassion for others.  
Visit a museum. Going to a museum provides the opportunity to have their own experience, together. As each of you interprets the art around you, you can have interesting conversations that may lead to new knowledge and understanding of each other. Seeing art and creativity in action can inspire creativity for everyone in the family.  
Learn something new together. Take an art or cooking class. If you go to a painting class together, you can each create something new and have fun embracing the new experience. Taking a cooking class leads not only to innovation in the kitchen but the chance to teach your kids about valuable life skills.  
Have an adventure together. Get out of the house and go on a hike or a nice walk. Getting away from screens and otherworldly distractions can help you take a step back and just be together as a family. Family exercise promotes a healthy lifestyle and emphasizes the importance of long-term physical health.  
Play games. Partake in the hobbies that your children love. If you don’t know much about their hobby, ask questions and get curious. You will learn more about your children’s strengths and interests. Your child will feel respect and love in return.
Also, You can check out this article talking about some great and funny activities to do together as a family or siblings to strengthen the bond.

8. Emotional stability and consistency

Is difficult to maintain. Your children learn these skills from you.

Emotional intelligence is defined as “the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.”

This skill is one that is carefully crafted. Teaching this skill is not easy – it requires allowing vulnerability and truth.

If your child is the smartest person in the room but has a hard time relating to people emotionally, he is less likely to move forward than an emotionally intelligent person. The ability to connect with others in a vulnerable and authentic way is a carefully crafted skill that your child will learn from you.

Daniel Goleman is one of the key innovators in the research on emotional intelligence. He has written a number of books on the topic. In them, he outlines the five key elements of emotional intelligence.

Five key elements of emotional intelligence:

Genuine emotional intelligence begins with self-awareness. Self-awareness is the ability to recognize emotions and see their impact on those around you. Those who have an ability to understand the sources of their emotions are better able to understand how their emotions are affecting their current state of mind.
Self-regulation leads to adaptability and acceptance of the change. Regulating emotions can only happen with a strong sense of self-awareness. Self-regulation means knowing when and how to express emotions. The ability to remain calm in stressful situations until you are in a safe place to process your feelings is the core of self-regulation.  
Motivation should come from inside rather than outside sources. Rather than chasing fame and recognition, intrinsically motivated people work hard in order to fulfill their own goals and expectations. Those who are motivated by secure sources are better able to roll with the punches and adapt to new things. They are always looking for ways to improve and learn new things.
Empathy is unequivocally linked to emotional intelligence. This is the skill that most helps in connection with other people because it entails an ability to understand the struggles and success of those around them. By being able to connect with a diverse range of people, empathetic people foster stronger and more authentic connections to others.
Social skills develop emotional intelligence and emotional intelligence develops social skills. An ability to be positive and uplifting in daily social interactions improves relationships with the people you come into contact with.

Conclusion

These principles can provide a source of direction in the maze of parenting. But you must know that there is no one perfect way for parenting, But with ideas and principles above may help you to lead the way and make it easier for your parenting journey